What do you do
when you are alone at home? What do you
do when you live by yourself and have to face an empty house every night?
I always think
being alone and lonely is two different feelings. I remember when I was young, a good friend of
mine told me she was not alone but she was lonely. In looking back, I think it was only a sort
of teenager blue. We did not really know
what loneliness was about back then.
However, as I
grew elder, I figured loneliness is a feeling that no one cares about us, no one
extends a helping hand to us when we feel vulnerable or need advice. Hence, I always offer my listening ears when
my friends want to pour their feelings, or lend them my shoulders when they
want to lend on and cry. I have also
learned to be strong and the art of “follow the flow”. I know the importance of accepting ourselves
and content with ourselves.
Few months ago, I
started an assignment for a client who she has many different businesses. She is very rich and spends a lot of money on
making herself pretty and happy, she even pays some of her consultants unreasonably
more than what they are entitled to so as to make them like her and will not
leave her. She always talks on phone no
matter she is in office, at home or insider a car, she just cannot let herself
quiet down or be alone. She is very hard
working and busy, may be, but to my eyes, she is just lonely.
Yes, loneliness
consumes our souls but I do not buy the idea of consuming our minds and monies
to buying people to accompany us. If it
can ever bring a moment of comfort, it will not be long term. I think what one should do to combat loneliness
is to fill our hearts with peace, notwithstanding if we are alone or not.
